A diagnosis of prostate cancer can affect partners, family members and friends as well as the person who has been diagnosed. There is no single right way to support someone. What helps most will depend on the individual, their treatment and what they want from you.
Listen and ask what they need
Some people want to talk openly about their diagnosis, while others prefer to focus on everyday life. Try to listen without feeling that you have to provide answers or always be positive. Ask what kind of help would be useful and respect their choices.
Help with information and appointments
Reliable information can make decisions easier. You might offer to read about tests or treatments, write down questions, attend appointments, take notes or help remember what was discussed. Always check how involved the person wants you to be. Healthcare professionals will normally need their permission before sharing confidential information with you.
Our Tests Available, Treatment and Treatment Pathways pages provide starting points for further information.
Practical support
Practical help can be valuable during tests, treatment and recovery. This might include transport to appointments, shopping, meals, household tasks or simply spending time together. Needs can change, so it is useful to keep asking rather than assuming.
Relationships and treatment side effects
Prostate cancer and its treatments can affect energy levels, mood, continence, sexual function and intimacy. These changes can affect both people in a relationship. Encourage honest conversation and, where appropriate, ask the clinical team about help with side effects and relationship or sexual concerns.
Look after yourself too
Supporting someone with cancer can be emotionally and physically demanding. It is reasonable to accept help, take breaks and continue looking after your own health. If you provide regular unpaid care, you may also be considered a carer and may be entitled to practical or financial support.
Where to get support
Macmillan Cancer Support provides information for family, friends and carers. Its free Support Line is 0808 808 00 00, 8am to 8pm, seven days a week.
Prostate Cancer UK also provides specific information and support for partners, family and friends.
You are also welcome to contact Leeds Prostate Cancer Support Group or learn about our Buddy System.